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Here’s a quiet truth I see over and over again in my work: Some of the smartest, kindest, most aware people struggle repeatedly in their relationships. Why? Because they are unconsciously using adaptive strategies that helped them survive during their developmental years. Those adaptations were needed then—but now they keep them stuck in harmful patterns. What was needed then. As children, we all adapted to our emotional environments. Those adaptations helped us survive. If

“I learned…” the confident gentleman on my left said at a social gathering on Sunday. What he said next was a critical communication...

"I just don't feel like I'm getting through to him," she lamented. I nodded. Her comment echoed sentiments I heard in my work as a...

Do you ever sit around thinking, "I should..." but don't? Here's why you (and I) get stuck in "shoulds": When we step into "doing," we...

I love taking vacations. Anywhere. Any season. 😎 But just as I prepare to take them, I also prepare to come back. How about you? What do...

One person’s celebration is another person’s sorrow, and vice versa. Whether it’s in the political arena or when one person on the team...

"What should I do?" she asked, looking concerned. (The eager helper in me wanted to respond expediently with an answer.) Instead, I said,...