Rosemary Via
Licensed Professional Counselor
Certified Professional Coach
Couples Therapy Specialist
Hello and thank you for dropping by!
I've worked with hundreds of individuals and couples, investing thousands of hours accumulated over almost 18 years in my profession to help people struggling in life and love.
Before entering the profession, I was a woman who felt small, lonely, and fearful (on the inside.)
I looked happy and accomplished on the outside.
I got married at age 25 and remember feeling relieved that someone wanted me. I was hopeful that marriage would make me whole. Of course, it didn't because that isn't how it works, so I would learn!
I was divorced before age 40 with a young child looking up to me. It was the most devastating time of my life with many painful years to follow.
I believe that "God uses all things for the good of those who love Him" so I have devoted myself to studying all I can on relationships and I use my knowledge and life experiences to help people like you discern, change, and live with intention.
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I am grateful to be remarried and to not only be a mother but a grandmother as well. I still have to work at love like everyone else, but I'm here to share that there is hope and a future for even those who feel broken.
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When not working, you'll find me on the pickleball court, playing cards with friends, reading, walking, and pondering the mysteries of life.
How I Work...and why it is important
When you reach out to me for help, I know how much energy went into making the initial contact. I know the stakes are high and the anxiety is even higher.
Knowing what you can expect from me makes getting started a little easier.
First, we will talk briefly for fit, then I'll ask you to complete a thorough intake questionnaire so I can begin preparing to work with you. If someone has an untreated substance abuse or psychiatric disorder or there is violence or police involvement, I am not the right fit so I will provide an appropriate referral.
At the initial appointment, I will ask about the history of the relationship, current interactional patterns, and conflict. This will be an exploratory time which will provide a working hypothesis of the core issues. I will also spend some time educating you on The Developmental Model of Couples Therapy, Relational Life Therapy, and key beliefs that guide my work (such as "there's no such thing as 50/50 in a relationship.")
In all sessions, I will take a leadership role and guide the conversation - no passive nodding. My role is to keep you focused, productive, and mutually accountable while practicing emotional regulation (which may be a new skill!) Sessions will include learning relationship theory and concepts, deep learning about yourself, experiential work to heal wounded parts of yourself, viewing the relationship through multiple lenses, learning new skills, and practicing what you are learning with moment-by-moment feedback.
My promise to you is this:
I will not let you simply recreate the dynamic you have at home.
I will interrupt, intervene, and encourage your growth on a moment-by-moment basis as triggering events occur.
You have tried handling this alone and it has not worked. My role is to guide, teach, reflect, equip, and increase awareness and accountability.
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You are not alone on an island anymore.
Selecting A Couples Therapist in a Big Tech World
We’ve all seen the ads on TV, Google, and social media — large, well-funded online therapy platforms promising low rates, 24/7 text access, and thousands of therapists to choose from. On the surface, it sounds appealing.
What’s less visible are the tradeoffs. In these large systems, both clients and therapists must adapt to the company’s operational model. That often means session length limits that cap meaningful work, billing transactions that can make you feel like a number, limited access to true specialization, and expectations that therapists remain highly available outside of sessions — a setup that contributes to clinician burnout. Who benefits from a burned-out therapist?
These platforms work well for some needs. For others, where focused attention, quick thinking, multiple moving parts, and high stakes are involved, the model can fall short. Couples therapy requires flexibility, creativity, and personalization that a corporate one-size-fits-all cannot provide.
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Couples work is sacred work. A delicate combination of science, art, and Spirit.
You deserve to be one of a select few on your therapist's schedule.