When You're Emotionally Exhausted and Don't Know What to Do
But You Know You Can't Keep Doing This:
✔️ Having the same conversations
✔️ Repeating the same patterns
✔️ Feeling resentful
I am a couples therapist & relationship counselor who specializes in focused, effective relationship repair.
So you can enjoy those walks in the park. And Fido can, too.
Couples Therapy,
individual relationship therapy,
And
couples Weekend Intensives
Direct. Focused. Effective.
Specialized intervention for struggling relationships
Feeling numb? Despite all the trying.
✔️You've made many attempts to improve your relationship.
✔️You've tried having talks.
✔️You made small asks. They were mostly ignored.
✔️You complained. But complaining created more tension.
✔️You scheduled times to have serious talks. No change.
✔️You cried. And cried. And cried.
✔️You became withdrawn.
✔️You yelled. Lost it. Thought you were going crazy.
✔️Now you are spent. Exhausted.
✔️You can't keep doing this anymore.
❔Really, why would you want to...
Don't keep trying on your own. Talk with a specialist.
I've helped hundreds of good people like yourself...
break through the resentment, even when it seemed impossible. How? By being direct and honest with people about how they are impacting each other in real-time.
I've always believed that shying away from telling couples the truth only allows the dysfunction to continue, so as my clients would tell you, I am kind and thoughtful, yet I draw attention to words, tones, attitudes, body language, and intentions that are driving a wedge between them and those they love.
Because I believe we are all capable of being effective partners when we know what to do differently and have a safe place to learn!
The bottom line is, most of us want to make it work! We try, and try to talk through the issues. The problem is, when we are in the muck, we are too close to the situation to see it clearly. We get stuck in our patterns.
With years of practice and genuine compassion, I tell people directly what I am hearing and observing as we interact in sessions. There's no wondering what your couple's therapist is thinking or if she has bias. Sometimes bias is needed - not to "pick" on someone but to help them see what is outside of their awareness.
I want to see people succeed in relationships so I point out what may be happening based on what I've learned about your life story. I point out how and where patterns are repeating, what thy are costing you, and I teach you explicitly how to step into a new way of being and communicating so people can feel and experience your love.
When individuals are growing and developing, relationships heal.
This is not the right place for you if
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You are in a physically violent relationship or there is psychological intimidation or threats of physical harm.
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You or your partner have untreated substance use issues.
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You or your partner have untreated severe psychiatric mental health issues.
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You and/or your partner are actively engaging in affairs. (e.g., No polyamorous relationships - that's for another therapist!)
If you meet one of these criteria, please seek out the appropriate assistance through the national domestic violence hotline, substance abuse specialists, psychiatry, and specialists in poly relationships.
Doing nothing isn't an option
because there is
so much to lose.
There's no violence. It isn't always bad. You're both good people. Sometimes everything seems fine but then it happens again.
Conflict starts, the "conversation" goes around in circles, and there doesn't seem to be any resolution. Again.
It's exhausting and stealing your time, peace, and energy. You feel like running away. But where would you go? And then what? Leave everything? Everything you've worked so hard for? Everything familiar. Leave all of the hopes, dreams, and plans for the future? Your home? How would leaving impact the kids? Extended family? Friends (they will take sides?) And who gets the dog?
Everything would be split. Fairly? Yeah, right.
The lawyers would be the ones winning. Retainer fees. Charges for every email and call, filing after filing, parenting fitness evaluations, custody, division of property, visitation and shared holiday schedules. Oh my. Why?
There is so much at stake as every distressed couple is keenly aware of.
Here is What Happens When You Work With Me
1. I will conduct an initial pre-screening consultation with you and your partner if they are also participating. This is a time for brief introductions, making sure we are the right fit for each other, and initial information gathering.
2. Together, we will determine the proper level of care.
➡️The lowest point of entry is group couples therapy: A weekly online meeting of personally vetted couples (group size limited) who are able to share with each other and receive targeted expert guidance from the specialist to make changes in their relationships with accountability and support.
➡️The next entry point is weekly 1:1 couples therapy. Online sessions with an expert who will quickly help the couple identify the stuck points, understand the costs of remaining the same, providing healing where needed to improve interpersonal functioning, and practicing new skills with support and accountability.
➡️ A weekend intensive is the highest level of intervention. 14 hours of intense work. It may be used as a stand alone to help a couple gain clarity around their path forward. Or, it may be a launching pad for ongoing 1:1 work - getting an accelerated start on the journey. Because there's a lot of work to do and weekly sessions can feel like forever when you are stuck in the muck!
3. With all levels of care you will receive
✓a relationship diagnosis,
✓personalized assessments as appropriate,
✓new lenses through which to view your relationship,
✓real-time, direct feedback on relational connection skills,
✓concrete tools to keep your work focused and productive,
✓a workbook for future reference and journaling, and
priority scheduling for follow up support through our group or couples 1:1.
(Couples who have completed the weekend intensive will receive a 10% discount on follow up 1:1 sessions)
Or, in the case that reconciliation simply is not possible, people will have clarity and resolution to move forward with confidence and respect.
4. You will receive real-time feedback on how you are communicating, how it is being received, and how you are contributing to the hurts or health of the relationship.
5. You will be shown - very clearly - a better way. (The secret sauce of happy connected couples.)
I will not let you keep you spinning.
While you may go round and round on your own, I will stop this cycle.
When people come to me for help, my goal is to bring total clarity to the situation.
What is the dynamic?
What are the patterns?
What is the relational dance that happens between partners?
How are the partners impacting (or triggering) each other?
Rather than empowering individuals, as we often do in individual therapy, my intent is relational empowerment.
If one person tends to avoid, I will help them find their voice. If another person's approach causes the other to shut down, I will help that person find better ways of getting what they want.
And speaking of getting what you want...usually both partners come into therapy feeling that they are not getting what they want. "This is not what we agreed to when we met and fell in love."
No one ever said, "Oh please, take from me, boss me around, and take me for granted. I will love you and cherish you for the rest of my life." No, it was a mutual agreement "to love and to cherish" so that is what we will strive to restore.
Not every couple will succeed. There are no guarantees that you and your partner will have "happily ever after."
But isn't it worth every last bit of hope, time, and energy to see if it is still possible? At a minimum, you will walk away with clarity. No more second-guessing or wondering "what if we had sought quality help." Sometimes you can love someone enough to part ways with respect.
Services That Fit Your Needs, Your Schedule and Your Budget
We offer a range of price points to meet different needs.
Couples
Group
Therapy
Couples
1:1
Therapy
Couples Weekend Intensive
Individual Therapy
Individual Client
Rosie is so easy to talk to. She has a natural ability to bring out what really matters so we can get right to the issue and deal with reality.
WHAT CLIENTS ARE SAYING
Couples Client
Rosie has a 'no nonsense' approach that really helped us see things in a different light, look at ourselves with new eyes, and make changes individually which made our relationship so much better.
Couples Client
Rosie has been able to point out things I didn't even realize about myself. I've learned to be more direct, ask for what I want and know that my voice isn't just worthy but critical in my relationship.